Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.A low-carb diet might help you lose weight, but it’s not going to change your underlying frame; if you’re naturally compact and dense, then you’re not going to jog that away. I inherited the O’Malley shoulders and I’m naturally barrel-chested; no amount of dieting or jogging is going to make that smaller.I’m always going to look more like a beer keg than Henry Cavill no matter what I do or don’t eat.The next key is simply to accept that your body is your body and your shape is your shape and there is only so much that you can do to change that.
Even if you lose weight, it’s no guarantee that you’re going to look like the cover of Men’s Health; a visible six-pack is as much the result of genetics, dehydration and favorable lighting as it is eating nothing but broiled chicken breasts and steamed broccoli and five hundred crunches a day.The problem is that all this does is draw attention to the fact that you’re trying to hide things – and making you look you.Even if you’re big, wearing clothes that fit properly will flatter your profile and make you look more attractive.Once you accept your shape, then you can work within it.Too many people who are concerned about their weight try to dress to conceal it, usually wearing clothes that are too big and loose.