If you venture into any Forever Alone or incel community like /r9k/, you’ll see hundreds of people lamenting how much sex they’ve never had and how the world is conspiring against them.
That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.
Numbers are data, dat your lack of dating experience.
However, there’s a significant difference between owning your inexperience and letting it own you.
The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.
We tend to make assumptions based around expectations built up by pop-culture and expectations about what makes a “real” man, assuming that everybody (but us) has been riding the sex train since the 5th Grade while we’re still Machokeing our Combusken at 19.
They set themselves up for failure by looking for reasons why others couldn’t possibly like them or why they couldn’t improve, and wait for the Universe to deliver instead.
Much like that annoying guy who’d rage quit from your DOTA session if you didn’t do things Just So, they treat dating as a series of steps that To these would-be dating Min-Maxers, you have a limited time within which to get your various firsts – your first date, your first kiss, your first sexual experience, etc.In reality, it’s the constant fairly small; the average man has around 6 sexual partners in his lifetime and usually loses his virginity between the ages of 17 to 24.In fact, the younger you are, the odds higher are that you’re actually going to have fewer partners than previous generations.They become intimidated by women whom they fear have more experience than they do.They become too afraid to approach , never mind people they’re attracted to.
Just because the last 40 women you made out with liked the Swirly-Go-Round doesn’t mean that it’s not going to make your partner’s skin crawl. Do your research where you can (here’s a great place to start…), take some risks, make some mistakes.