What if they’re not that into me and I end up making a fool of myself falling for someone when they don’t feel the same way? It may seem hard to believe, but in the beginning of a relationship, a guy will try to feel out how much a woman likes him …
especially if he feels some amount of insecurity about how much she’s into him.
And what to do when a peer becomes your boss Use this opportunity to make clear you're going to ultimately decide what the policy will be, but that you want to hear from them as you contemplate what the new rule will be. If the relationship doesn't work out, you've got to let HR know that, as well.
And don't forget to have your new policy reviewed by your lawyer. Some companies have policies that prohibit or strongly discourage workplace romance, especially when it's between a supervisor and a subordinate. Disclosure may be embarrassing, but secrecy is damaging — to the couple and the workplace culture as a whole.
For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.
We hit it off right away and during the first few weeks, he seemed super into me.
The excitement is on thinking about all the things they like about you.
The fear is rooted in insecurities: What if they don’t like me as much as I like them?
It can be helpful to look at the initial period of dating as it’s own phase with its own specific qualities.
MORE: Exactly Why Men Withdraw From Relationships For example, in the beginning, both of you might feel a lot of excitement and also an undercurrent of fearful restlessness.
that doesn’t mean he’ll lose interest in you, but if he already had some insecurities about whether or not you are into him, this will stir up his insecurities further and he’ll keep doing and trying things to “make you like him” so he can feel secure. So, for starters, I would say that the more insecure he is about you liking him, the more of this stuff he’s going to say until he’s convinced that you really like him a lot.