I've never been married but I lived with a girl for a couple years who was aware of my bondage fetish.
In fact, the reason we get together was that she was into the same stuff, although not nearly to the same degree.
What you can't do in real life you can enjoy, vicariously, though the actions of the villain in whatever media you are consuming.
Thus, your metaphor for dragging her by the hair and forcing yourself upon her is an appealing scenario.
For most of us, though, there's an ability to recognize the difference between what happens inside our heads and in the world of others.
Relationships with emasculating women would be as unlikely to "turn" a guy gimp as to switch him to gay. I've been married twice, once for 30 years and now again for 11.
Howie The line in my post about being sick of the subject matter is a direct quote from bleumune's post, which I directly attribute to him, and his post is only 1 post removed from mine.
So me saying that isn't a statement that I will no longer engage with the subject, but rather a reflection of what other people on the board are saying about it.
Now you argue that we should not feel empathy for him because we do not share the same kinks as he had, as if only our own kinks are worthy of empathy. I just posted a book long post talking about how I'm into Rape, Torture, and Snuff fantasy, and your take away from that is that I'm saying I haven no empathy for him because our tastes differ?My first wife, when I tried to share fantasy play with her (the first woman I tried it with) was disgusted and would have none of it.My second was disgusted and frightened but now gets off on being flogged while stretched out (but not tied) or in fantasizing while being masturbated.I don't need the fantasy, though it is my most powerful turn-on, to express myself sexually with a woman.Many of my partners over the years were never even aware of that part within me.