Also realize you are not guaranteed to encounter these issues when you date someone with depression. Whether you ask or deduce it after months of dating, there will be a point when your partner discloses they deal with depression.
It’s a crucial moment in the relationship, so be sensitive and do not judge.
“Even if you think you have answers, they can turn your answers around and turn them into problems of their own,” Borissenko said, describing how severely depressed men might respond to positive support. Tell him exactly what you mean and explain why what you are saying is positive.
If his response seems like an attack, resist the instinct to be defensive.
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Evgueni Borissenko, who has dealt with severe depression and blogged about it, talked about what this can be like in cases such as his.
There might be days when it seems like this third person possesses your partner, trying his best to disrupt the relationship or come between the two of you.
Without excusing the behavior, be patient and understand this person is not at the core of who your man is. Protecting your mental health is more important than being with him, no matter how much it seems like he has become everything to you.
Note: We discuss the following insights in the context of dating men, but they apply equally to women.
Scroll further down to read about behaviors and situations you are more likely to encounter with men only.
One of the most hurtful things you can do to a man with depression is say it is his fault, that he could choose to be better if his will or character was stronger.